Hapa Baby loves her daddy. In fact, her first word was “Daddy.” As an infant, she would wail “Daaaadddyyyy!!!” as she stretched her arms out looking for D. I guess, then, it is not surprising that Hapa Baby will follow D everywhere (and me nowhere). When she’s with her father, her little face lights up and I can tell she’s content. Sometimes I can’t help but feel a teeny bit jealous. Just a teeny bit.
I can’t be too jealous, though, because while I have lots of time with her, D doesn’t. He sometimes gets home late and leaves early. When his mother came to visit earlier this year, she pushed me to change HB’s schedule. “It’s better for her,” she told me,” She needs to sleep earlier.”
When I asked why, there was no answer. Just that “It was better for her.” I responded that until there is a reason for HB to sleep earlier (like preschool), HB will have her own schedule so that she can see her father when he gets home. Although she wasn’t happy with me, my husband was happy. He enjoys having HB up when he gets home so she can run to him as she yells,”Daddy!” He laughs as she runs at him with her arms wide open and a grin on her face. When he gets home, as I prepare dinner, he and HB play together. It’s their father — daughter time — a time that I think is extremely important.
Lately, Hapa Baby has been waking up earlier and going to sleep earlier. It’s been a natural occurrence, and has been her routine. The problem, however, is when D comes home, she’s a sleep. I can see the disappointment in his face that she’s not there to run to him. While it’s more convenient for us that we have our nights free, I feel awful that he gets no time with her.
I’m wondering if I should help her get back to a later schedule so he can see her more. She gets a lot of sleep. If she goes to sleep at 10 instead of 8 she sleeps until 12. If she goes to sleep at 8 she wakes up at 7. I’ve done some research and haven’t found anything that says she has to go to sleep that early. Just that babies need lots of sleep. Can’t she sleep later? She has a schedule, she gets lots of sleep, it’s just later. The most important thing for me is nurturing my husband’s relationship with his daughter. These baby years go by so fast, I don’t want him to miss them.
I wanted this Halloween to be special. Last year, I semi-made Hapa Baby’s Costume. I made her a Minnie Mouse Costume and added a tutu to it. This year, I wanted to make something even better. I wanted to make something entirely homemade. I loved Halloween when I was younger. My aunt, an expert seamstress, would create for us the most amazing costumes. One year I was Snow White, the next, a bunny, and even Rainbow Brite!
As I look back on these costumes, I realize how important these were for me. I would wake up early Halloween morning excited and happy to try on my costume. I wanted this feeling for Hapa Baby. I vowed to learn to sew. Unfortunately, my vow didn’t work out so well. My sewing skills are virtually non-existent, but where there’s a will there’s a way! Armed with Super Glue, Safety Pins, and a Monster’s Inc. Boo Costume Tutorial Blog Post, I created a recognizable Boo costume! Amazingly, as soon as Hapa Baby started toddling around, kids started to shout,” Boo! Boo!” It was a great feeling.
Without further ado, I give you baby Boo.
I love fall. The changing of the leaves, the cold, the fog… yes, even the fog is beautiful to me. Growing up in Hawaii, we didn’t have a lot of weather changes. There was rainy season and sunny season and not much in between. When I moved to the Pacific Northwest six years ago, I realized I never wanted to move back. Ever. I loved the seasons. I loved the colors and every year seems more beautiful than the last.
People often complain about the rain and the grey here, but I love it. I love sweater, scarf and boot season! Mostly, though, I love exploring. I love that we can drive through the mountains, pick apples at apple orchards, and splash in puddles. Beautiful. I’ll post pictures of the colors soon ( I know I still owe you all a few Disney posts too).
On a more serious note, I know fall and winter can be difficult seasons for many families, and I am always reminded during the colder seasons just how lucky I am that we have heat, food, and warm clothes.
At our local store there are food drives that customers can contribute to either monetarily or through canned goods. Each grocery trip, I try to donate something — especially for the colder seasons when electricity and heating bills can get very expensive. Some days I can donate more and others a little less, but I try to help as much as I can. If you have the chance, please consider donating to your local food bank. One of my friends had a great idea, he would keep jackets he purchased from the thrift shop in the car and hand them out to people who seemed cold.
If you have any other ideas on how we can help others during these colder winter months, please comment below.